Talks about Uncles

[debboamerik]

As it turns out, not going to Uncle Bobby's funeral isn't going to be the drama I was dreading. The funeral is on a Wednesday, so unless I wanted to miss a week's work (and therefore a quarter of my monthly income), there was no way to do it. I'll be saying a rosary on Tuesday while they have his rosary service at Holy Cross, and I'll try to take a half day on Wednesday so I can go to the noon Mass at St. Matthew's here in DC and do a funeral pray-along. (My family is mainly Catholic - French, Irish, and Italian - so this is an act of solidarity with them.)

I actually had a conversation with my dad today. He's pretty down about losing his only older sibling, and is expressing it in angry terms, as he often does. He says he's lost four pounds this week, and with the way I was eating and sleeping on Wednesday and Thursday, I believe it. He and my little cousin A., who is going into her Senior year of high school and was really, really close to Bobby, are going to do the eulogies. I am proud of my cousin for being strong enough to make herself so vulnerable.

I am still very upset. We will miss him very, very much.

Comments

[gerimaple.livejournal.com]

I'm so glad your father is choosing to not compound the situation by being a drama llama. *HUGS*

[debboamerik.livejournal.com]

Yes, so far it's been blessedly drama-free. My dad's anger is mostly focused on anyone and everyone who gives my aunt (Uncle Bobby's widow) any trouble whatsoever, and is thus (as far as I am concerned) well within the bounds of what is appropriate. Predictably enough, it's the French-Canadian side, rather than the Irish side, that is causing the trouble (not a reflection on Quebecois in general, just my grandpa's family). Thank you so much for your help and concern.

[kartoffel.livejournal.com]

I've been thinking about you and sending good thoughts your way. Wish I could give you a big hug!